Dear Br. miracle114,
Salaamun Aleikum,
It is clear from the context of 9:24 that the believers were not to take as allies those among their fathers and brothers who preferred disbelief to belief (9:23) lest they themselves become wrongdoers (dhwalimun). This would, in my humble opinion, imply that except those family folk that insist on disbelief, at the very worst, one’s family members still hold a higher value with regards to individual responsibility, especially in the context of 33:6.
This is in no way abrogated by the fact that a true believer’s love for Allah automatically overrides love for any other besides Him (2:165). However, so that this is sincerely practically manifest, we ought to adhere to the Prophet’s teachings, 3:31. This could honestly be by way of beseeching the Qur’an for the same as stated in my earlier response, quoted below:
'With us today, we can only follow the Qur’an, in essence, similarly following the Prophet as did those believers during the Prophet’s time, and as you put it, obeying Allah and the Prophet.’
In my humble opinion, to insist that love emotions should only be meant for Allah [Prophet(s) exclusive] and some closely related folk, like one’s family, is unwarranted. That the love for the Prophet (tied together with that of Allah and His Cause) in 9:24 was just meant to be exercised by those believers contemporaneous to the Prophet is not an explicit directive to rule out. Just because we were not present during those times or that the Prophet isn’t in our midst doesn’t mean that we are not to love the Prophet by honoring his Qur’anic teachings from Allah, upholding his high moral character as depicted by the Qur’an or follow him by way of the Qur’an so that Allah can suffice us, 8:64.
Truth when realized, comes with it a great responsibility of upholding. Being conscious of this at the very best would actually exquisitely make a believer appreciate the exclusive role of firstly prioritizing the truth with which Islam comes with hence upholding that truth through obeying Allah and the Prophet, in such a manner explained above, be it against oneself, parents, etc.,4:135. It is in such a context of understanding at which the idea of the love of Allah and the Prophet overriding all can be acknowledged.
Thus, in my humble opinion, the love, in purpose (in the absolute sense), for Allah, the Prophet and Allah’s Cause (9:24), comes first. This is irrespective of the time in which a believer lives, contemporary or non-contemporary to the Prophet’s time.
On one hand, a responsibility is tied to one towards their family. On the other, relative love emotions are evoked with respect to some field of concern. Interpreting such evoked emotions and subjecting them to a restrictive context of Allah alone and somehow kinfolk would just sound inconclusive. Rather, the love for the Prophet is just interpreted in the manner of that for Allah, and that for His Cause, that is, absolutely in purpose, upholding the Qur’anic truth. This should however not be confused with 2:165, for the exclusive love for Allah translates to love for the Prophet (following his teachings from the Qur’an) and love for striving in His Cause.
On the whole, trying to exempt oneself from the idea of having love for the prophet(s) and that one could only possibly exercise some love for him/them if they were contemporaneous to the prophet(s)’s time(s) would just sound dismissive.
Those are my thoughts Insha Allah.
I hope that somehow helps God willing.
Regards,
Athman.