Thank you that did help.
Also from close relatives I hear also it takes women sometimes more than 40 days to recover or readjust.
I guess from women to women the days may very. some readjust before or after 40 days. The 40 day information that I heard might of came just from secondary islamic sources.
Taking wisdom from verses of the Quran like this one seems to help indeed
2:222
Yusuf Ali
They ask thee concerning women's courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution: So keep away from women in their courses, and do not approach them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves, ye may approach them in any manner, time, or place ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.
Thanks brother
Peace